Category: Self-Improvement

  • Deal with Your Shame

    When I discovered that a family friend of mine got into her dream college that is also very prestigious, it was difficult to understand the strange mix of negative emotions I felt. I worried that she would no longer see me, someone a few years her senior and is on the surface a few years…

  • Living Life According to Your Internal Values

    A few months after college I started seeing a therapist. While many of the exercises I did with her were eye-opening, the most important one was figuring out what my values are. Interestingly, this is a question people would ask of someone they’re considering to be their life partner, yet it’s something I never thought…

  • How to Combat Perfectionism

    Perfectionism has plagued my life for as long as I’ve had responsibilities. It’s the reason I’ve procrastinated on or at times barely completed any task I found remotely challenging and the reason I’ve felt an acute and enduring sense of shame any time I did not measure up to my arbitrarily high standards, which happens…